Monday, July 19, 2010

Lost in Translation

Okay, so me and the family relocated back to Batam Indonesia temporarily. The goal is to accumulate enough money to make a decent living off of a decent investment. The cost of living here is cheap so our income is higher than our expenses finally, ha! I make money by affiliate marketing and improving SEO. I cannot do it by myself so I hired a girl here to do data entry and advertising for me. It’s not too complicated of a job. All she really has to do is copy and paste all day long. Anyway I really began to see how easily things can become “Lost in Translation” here. I communicate with her through typing what I want to say in English and then inserting it into Google translator and emailing her or sending an instant message with instruction. She was having some difficulties the other day and I sent her a message saying, “Having any luck with the job?” and she responded by saying, “What do you mean I am lucky to have this job?” I felt horribly and hopefully I succeeded in giving a proper apology.

It gets worse than that however. She finally got the job down and was able to navigate through websites with ease. I’ve even come across some of her listings by doing a basic search in google. I wanted to show her my appreciation and I wrote out a letter telling her she was doing a good job because I found her online advertisement on myadmonster.com. My dad called me back to the office and asked me what is it that I want her to do. I looked at the email they were looking at and I told him I didn’t want her to do anything new and that it was simply a letter letting her know she was on the right track. He seemed surprised, he said “Really? Because it says that she did something big online and you just saw a monster.” I couldn’t help but laugh because … well, it was funny.
Brittany has this habit of saying “Hella good” and my dad overheard this. I don’t think he honestly heard it right because I was eating these Japanese Noodle Snacks that were “Hella Good” but he wanted me to try something different. He walked in the door with this cheese wafer type thing and when I was about to say I was full he interrupted me with “What the hell good!” I thought he was mad at first and ate it real fast before he said, “That’s what you guys say. It’s what the hell good.” I had thought he was angry and took it out on me by making me eat this weird cheese stick, which actually was, “What the hell good!”
There have been other not so great examples of bad communications and the struggle against language barriers. For example, I am learning plenty of Bahasa and Hokkien but that doesn’t matter because I am far from fluent. So I told Brittany that when she needs something from the maids to use body language. I wanted her to tell the maid to spray her room for mosquitoes but she didn’t know how. I instructed her to make a little fly with a finger, buzzing around merrily, and with the other hand use it as a spray. Motion as though the finger that is the mosquito is now falling to the floor after the spray motion. I added sound effects as well so they could hear the obvious change in buzzing. She tried this, but they ended up getting confused and brought her a needle and thread.

When Mike took his mother to Bali, I stayed behind with Ian and Iniya. I just cannot part with my babies while they are so young. Anyway, one day I was on the computer and I noticed a mouse running through my bedroom. I couldn’t believe it and I thought for certain it would chew up the wires behind the television. Ian and Stefany, my sister, were with me. I drew up a photo of me, sitting on my laptop, drew a mouse, and then drew me, Ian and Stefany screaming. I took it down to one of the maids. She said, “Ohhh!” Ran into a room then came back out and said no. I figured she just didn’t want to help with the issue so I went back upstairs and sat, doing nothing for quite some time. After a while I got the attention of another maid and she saw the mouse too. She came back with a broom, seen it, struck the wall, screamed and backed off and repeated this until someone else arrived. Unfortunately, a young man came in, my dad’s store clerk and he did something fatal to the mouse. It was sad and I almost regretted mentioning I seen it in the first place. Well the first maid came back upstairs and finally realized what was going on. Apparently, she thought I was complaining about a toy and she had told me she had not seen it.
This is just an outline of the communication challenges we meet here each day. Super fun! As you can see, I’ve included some recent pictures of us here in Batam for the last month and a half.

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Our Last Days in Merced

In November of 2009 we relocated from Antelope, Ca to Merced, Ca. I was born and raised in Merced so I was entering familiar territory. To be honest, wasn’t too excited about the move. Merced is a smaller community with a relatively bad review. I have to admit that this time around it exceeded my expectations. I am sad to be leaving so much that it almost brought me to tears today.

Ian’s school seemed horrid at first. Kids were always in the office bad mouthing the staff, fighting, and just being typical brats. I was also insecure because my son has had troubles with speech in school and I feared he would experience ridicule from his peers. I didn’t like his teacher because he was sent home with a naughty note because he needed extra help. I even went the extra mile of having a meeting with her to scold her on her tactics. She felt horrible and changed the name of the form sent home to communicate with parents. Nevertheless, I feared that moving Ian from Antelope was a huge mistake on my part.
Five months later, I take back everything I thought of Charles Wright. My son started school there unable to retain the sounds of the alphabet. Now, he can read and write. He knows so many science facts that I learn something new from him each day. His teacher was the first teacher ever to seek me out in a crowd to tell me my son is amazing. He had enormous growth there. He excels in Math but always has. Recently he was given a project of having to create a Math Kite where he is given a number and he has to come up with equations to equal out to that number. He was given the number 1. Most kids did things like 3-2=1 or 6-5=1 but Ian did 200-99-99-1=1 all on his own.

His teacher was so sad on his last day. Her eyes filled with tears and she told me of how proud she was of him. I hugged her for quite a long time. Ian cried too because he was losing his favorite teacher and the great friends he had made at Charles Wright Elementary. She is such a great teacher who really does care about all the children she teaches. After giving her a chance I must say she is the best first grade elementary school teacher I have ever met.
Brittany has made lots of friends. She didn’t do so well in school but she is happy in this community. She says when she finally turns 18 she wants to move back here to start her life, opposed to Sacramento, which is a shocker I am sure.


It’s also hard because this is the first house that Iniya ever lived in. The house I turned a perverted male blow up doll into a memorable Valentine’s Day for my husband… (okay, that sounds weird but it was a joke). I feel were all happy here, or at the very least comfortable and content. I’ve grown close to my step dad. We love him. I haven’t had a chance to spend much time with my mother who just graduated college for the second time last night.

Obviously because she has been busy but it is nice being near her. Our cat Jakarta loves this house. I reconnected with old friends. We made a couple new friends. It’s just sad to be leaving Merced again.

So, where are me and my family going? We’re going back to Batam, Indonesia to stay with my father. The economic crisis took a toll on the Limousine business. I am going back to school to get my Bachelor’s in Business Administration with a concentration on Global Business Management (online classes). I will then be applying for an MBA program in California in a year or so. We’re going to save money while were there so we can reinvest in something that will work. Iniya, Ian, and Brittany will get a chance to see other parts of the world (Ian already has), exposure to different cultures, language, etc. It is priceless experience. They will get to know my father’s side of the family, our customs, our history, etc. It is still so sad to go. I have my concerns, my forever endless list of concerns… but I guess there are pros and cons to every situation. I just hope that when we come back we can settle into a stable and successful life. I love all of my family so much and I know these changes are not easy on everyone.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Honey Moon

This post is just to recap on some events that had passed this 2010 for me but I got a bit too busy to blog about. As I mentioned in previous posts, me and Mike became husband and wife December 2010. We couldn't really go on any kind of extravagant honeymoon because I was quite far into my pregnancy. Cruises were out and flights were out. They have requirements as far as pregnancy progression and most carriers do not want you to travel off land if you are beyond 25 weeks gestation. Las Vegas was out because of all the inside smoking and plus that is more of a "party" place in my eyes. Some place you may want to go if you are NOT pregnant and able to drink alcohol and watch boob shows. Anyway, me and Mike decided to do a California beach tour and visit Tijuana Mexico. We visited Venice Beach, Hollywood, San Diego, Morrow Bay, and Tijuana Mexico. Mexico turned out being much worse than Vegas by the way. Being the open minded person that I am and curious about the reputation that Tijuana had accumulated I suggested we visit a gentleman's club. I had to run to the bathroom and on the way to the ladies room I noticed approximately 3-4 nude females dancing on the table. Once I was done using the bathroom, Mike jumped at me and prompted me out of the area. Once we were out of there he told me that a stripper had come up to him tried to grab his croch and then tried rubbing her breast in his face. He told her to stop and she said that he needed to at least tip her. He stated that he had not asked her to do those things and since she had reached out to him that she should tip him. She became angry and threatened to make a phone call. He dared her to do so and I guess that was the end of it. Who knows the reality of the situation but either way I am confident enough to not read into it too much. We only stayed in TJ for the day and returned the following day for shopping. Not a whole lot went on but we extended our vacation and beach visits for a week. I guess the highlight or most interesting place to visit was Venice Beach and Morro Bay (my choices).




Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Iniya Pau Ng

Iniya Pau Ng
NOT PRONOUNCED "IN-YA PAW NIG"
CORRECTLY PRONOUNCED "EH-NIGH-YUH POW UNG"
THANK YOU!!!
Long story cut very short:
During the summer of 2009 I found out I was pregnant. Around 16 gestation I found out that I would be having a daughter. My pregnancy went very well, I was healthy. I gained a total of 25 lbs and had no problems with any of the prenatal testings. My son Ian was very excited to be having a sister and many members of my family were looking for to meeting this child growing inside of me.

Me and Mike got married in Merced County. It was a small court house ceremony but I was heavy in pregnancy and wasn't wanting to plan and go through a formal wedding at the time. We will be planning an actual wedding, and you bet I am getting the Bachelorette party of my dreams! We became an expectant married couple December 15, 2009.
To be quite honest, I hated being pregnant. I hated it to the core. I am so glad it is over and so very proud to be her mother. I am so happy to have my daughter here and the influence on my life is tremendous. I love her, she takes my breath away. Each and every day I feel myself falling more in love with her as I had with my son Ian.
This is her birth story:
On February 18, 2010 your father and I headed to Modesto for an ultrasound appointment. Once there the Perinatologist discovered that there was the amniotic fluid was running quite low and felt it was in your best interest to be born. He wrote a recommendation to have labor induced. We drove to Sutter Roseville Labor & Delivery Department to be induced. The staff was reluctant to induce the labor due to the doctor not being linked to their hospital. The on call doctor decided to go ahead and honor the recommendation and induce me that evening. At approximately 5 pm they broke the amniotic sac. Very little fluid seemed to leak. The contractions were slow to start but once they introduced pitocin they began to peak up dramatically. The contractions grew very intense and before low I was unable to tell when one contraction started and another contraction began. I was reluctant to ask for pain killers at first but after experience the full throttle labor I begged the nurse to administer something. Initially she gave me something through the IV. This had absolutely no effect at first and then the pain began to only get worse. The nurse gave me a second dose of this drug and still no effect was felt. She called the anesthesiologist to issue an epidural. I suffered through almost another hour of excruciating contractions. The anesthesiologist finally got there and began the epidural process. The epidural took some time to work and perhaps ten minutes passed before the nurse decided to check my cervix again. I was suddenly 10 cm dilated and it was already time to push. I could barely feel the urge to push at all but the nurse would notify me when I was having a contraction. In approximately four short pushes you were out! The doctor put you on my chest and you screamed. Iniya Pau entered the world on February 18, 2010 at 10:51 pm, weighing in at 5 lbs 15 oz and 17 inches in length.

Me After giving birth!


We brought her home and she is currently 2 weeks old. She is beautiful and such a great baby.